This blog is about the life being like the highway, with quite a bit of parallels and lessons to learn from.
One of my favourites subjects is on co-sojourners.
In the context of a highway, your co-sojourners can be other cars right there and then on that same highway with you.
But it could also be the person sitting in the same vehicle with you as you cruise down the highway of life.
Some of these co-sojourners come and go. Your paths cross for a fleeting moment in eternity, and then you continue on your separate journeys.
For example, the bus ride I took in China where I had a prostitute for a fellow passenger for 3 hours.
This can be likened to two different roads intersecting only at that one point.
Many times, you don’t choose your co-sojourners. But sometimes, you get the luxury of consciously choosing co-sojourners to ride with you on your highway of life.
Today I want to muse about this conscious choice, about choosing your co-sojourner.
Sometime back, I wanted to embark on a new business venture and I was seriously contemplating entering into a partnership with some people whom I guess I did not know very well.
I was about to choose these people to be my co-sojourners for a significant part of my journey on my highway of life.
As I went about doing my business and talking to potential partners and customers about supporting me in this new venture, some of the comments I received were like these :
“Huh? Sounds like a great business but why partner with them?”
“Be very careful of these people”
“I’d support you anytime Nic, but are you sure you wanna partner with them?”
“I know you Nic, and these people do not hold the same values with you”
These comments obviously made me reconsider and reflect on my new business partnership and eventually I decided not to go ahead with the business.
The last comment about values really struck me about business partnerships and choosing your co-sojourners.
If say you are a person of integrity, would you consciously choose someone who is sorely lacking in integrity to be your passenger in a 20-hours car journey?
Or to put it simpler, if you do not appreciate heavy metal music, would you sit in the same car with someone who insists on blasting heavy metal music for 20 hours?
If you think about it, we do choose our co-sojourners based on our perception of their values, that their values should be at least acceptable to us if not close to or same as our own.
Similarly, when you choose a life or business partner, this becomes even all the more important.
For these people will end up as very significant co-sojourners who will ride with you for a good part of your journey down the highway of life.
Come to think of it, I have ended my business partnerships prematurely before, just because of this.
I guess I have to learn to be even wiser by not starting business partnerships when values are obviously not the same?
What about you?